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What To Do When No One Likes You (FB Live)

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Hey there…I’m Karen, a former psychotherapist, a mentor, an Energy Editing™ Professional, an Art of Feminine Presence coach, mom and an entrepreneur. I'm also a wildly passionate advocate for helping women become their truest selves + live their most fulfilling lives.

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Heyyyyy…. Guess what??! There IS no formula! You Heyyyyy…. Guess what??! There IS no formula! You are not a science experiment or a mathematical equation! There is not one right answer for how you should live! No one else can give you your 5-step path to success! Happiness! Abundance! (Sorry to be the bearer of bad news) (But maybe its the best news ever) Being a human, with a pulsing, beating heart is an exquisitely tender experience. No wonder we want someone to tell us how to DO IT! Maybe - just maybe, we hope - if there IS a RIGHT way, a formula, then we wont have to feel the sensations of our humanity: love, loss, joy, pain…all of it. Maybe we can avoid failure, rejection, criticism, grief. Nope. Impossible. In fact, turns out, the more you grasp for a formula, the less alive you feel; the more you insist on certainty, the less contact you have with the clarity of your own intuition. The more you seek answers outside of you, the less access you have to your own wisdom. So whats a person to do, without a formula, without a plan, without a model? Follow the breadcrumbs. Moment by moment, heeding the wisdom of your inner whispers, your truest desires, holding your heart in the moments of pain. The more you practice listening to the little things, the easier it gets to hear the big things. Once you stop gripping to “the right way,” (spoiler alert: there is none), you start seeing your path unfold as you step, and you realize that there never ever could be a formula for the uniqueness that is you. #thereisnoformula #presencenotperfection #followthebreadcrumbs #desirebasedcoaching #youareunique #karenschachter #transformationalcoaching #magicintheunknown
If there’s one myth I’d love to bust (and ther If there’s one myth I’d love to bust (and there are so many more than one!) …it’s the idea that people come to this work because something is WRONG; they need to be FIXED; and that one day, if they get it just right, they will be a perfectly functioning human. To be fair, most of the “healing” world holds this idea. I used to too. I was trained as a psychotherapist (an invaluable experience in many ways) and the orientation was: look for the problem, diagnose the problem, fix the problem and the person. My orientation today is vastly different. You are not broken. You do not need to be fixed. You are absolutely perfect; and you come to this “work” because you desire MORE. Your “problems” all were brilliant ways of navigating challenges at one time; and now, they are blocking you from being your fullest self and having the things you deeply desire. There’s nothing to fix. There may, however be things to FEEL. There may be patterns to release. There may be new, updated beliefs about yourself to uncover. There are likely ways of being in the world that are more aligned with your truest self. You do not need to be fixed. You just get to have more. There is likely a deep well of love + joy + grief + power + desire that wants to be FELT by you and thru you. Owning this much, feeling this much, having this much can be scary AF to a nervous-system that’s felt safe with less. There’s nothing to fix; only parts to love; feelings to express; and a full self to get in deep approval of. Constant self-improvement is exhausting. But being on a path of opening to haveing & being more because thats who you are? Thats exhilarating! I’d love to know how this lands. #selflove #selfcompassion #youarenotbroken #youdonotneedtobefixed #ridiculouslyhuman
I woke up this morning with a deep pit of doubt in I woke up this morning with a deep pit of doubt in my belly. My friend was coming over to look at my furniture today, to possibly take it all - a win-win: she gets a deal as she decorates a new space and I get rid of furniture with ease as i get ready for #nomadlife. But in that moment, shit became real…real fast. The possibility that I had previously dreamt about (life as an exploration & unfolding thru travel) is coming up SOON. My lease expires March 20 and I will be “homeless.” Sure, i know where I’ll be for some periods (NYC, Nashville, summer in Portugal, some time in Ireland), but I’ll be footloose & fancyfree (or wandering and lost:) for weeks & months before and after…indefinitely. It hit me: The voice of Doubt… Stay. Dont go. What are you doing? (Are you insane?) What if you fail? A free-falling sensation came flooding in. (Continued in comments)
Turns out, humans love their stories. Problem is: Turns out, humans love their stories. Problem is: we keep telling ourselves the same ones over and over: the stories that help us make sense of our identity, our beliefs, our pain. The stories that keep us safe. The other problem with replaying the same stories? You keep reinforcing them, and then weaving your present and future from an outdated framework. Your future self - really your true self - lies beyond the comfort of your past stories. She lies in your body-heart-soul vision/desires and she can only be felt when you are willing to release your addiction to those old stories, so you can feel into whats truly possible. If it’s time to be led by whats possible - and you want a map to support you in curating a life that puts desire in the lead - we’d love to invite you to join us for CURATE The Possible. (DM me for details) #curatethepossible #kimkarencurate #yourpastdoesnotdefineyou #releaseoldstories #desirebasedcoaching #consciouschoices #consciouscreator
Knowing truth is one thing. Living that truth is Knowing truth is one thing. Living that truth is a whole other thing that will crack your heart open, leave you feeling raw, tender, connected and fully alive. #truthseeker #truthwillsetyoufree #openheart #transformationalcoaching
The Magician archetype is a powerful + potent crea The Magician archetype is a powerful + potent creator. She lives within each of us; and our connection to her influences our ability to cultivate our deepest desires and bring them into reality. Most of us have not learned how to feed our inner Magician. Instead, we let her shadow - the archetype I call The Protector (sometimes known as the saboteur) - guide our actions. We end up following our conditioning or our fear; and then wonder why life seems so damn hard. The Magician knows that she is the magic: her beingness; her choices; her focus; her energy. No one else is responsible for saving her. If you want to cultivate deeper access to your magician and create a living breathing map of her vision, her choices, her actions, join me & my friend @kim__deyoung for CURATE The Possible. DM me for details 💥💥💥💥💥💥 #magicianarchetype #innermagician #curateyourlife #choicesmatter #curatethepossible
It’s true: we often have fear around the people It’s true: we often have fear around the people (and things) we love & value the most… Yet we can not be in both energies at once. This has taken me a long time to learn because my little obsessive worry brain has confused fear with love ❤️ Like, “if i worry enough or obsessively try to fix this/them, it’s because i love it/them so much.” No, babe, thats not love energy:) that’s fear. And when Im in that state, it’s like I put a shut-off valve on the abundant love I feel. And the abundant love others might receive from me & I might receive from them. The great thing about love tho, is that you can choose it at any moment. Like without one more drop of therapy or analyzing your past, you can just choose, in this moment, to open to love. (I know, it’s vulnerable, yes?) And the minute you do, the minute you soften and open that big beautiful heart to the love that’s in there, the more your fear begins to dissolve. Try it. It’s quite a little magical elixir 😊 SO: Today I choose love. Next time I find myself gripping in worry or fear around something or someone I can’t control, I will invite myself to soften into love. Join me?? #chooselove #lovedissolvesfear #chooseloveoverfear #transformationalcoaching #everythingisenergy #openhearted
Your perfectionism is felt like judgement to other Your perfectionism is felt like judgement to others, even if you think you’re hiding it 😳 Approving of your own human messy bits allows others to breathe deep in your presence. PS self-approval is the opposite of narcissism 😍or being conceited. (Those are actually defenses against self-hate & shame). #perfectionismrecovery #selfapproval #selfcompassion #cominghometoyourself #coachingforwomen

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